Children with behavioral issues ( behavioral excess -  behavioral deficits) find it difficult to maintain good interpersonal relationships and make effective adjustments. Such children are empowered through various interventions during counselling sessions.

Also, children are not separate entities and their behavioral manifestations depend upon their environment. As per the need parents, teachers and peer facilitators are sensitized to support and help create healthy environment for the child.

Group counselling sessions are also conducted to ensure the environmental safety of our students. Students also become capable in regulating their emotions, handling stress, managing time and navigating their problems with confidence.

Talent of Gifted children is also nurtured through guidance and enrichment programs. Their abilities and interests are evaluated to help them develop realistic academic and career goals.

From the Counsellor’s Desk

The World of Magic and Happiness

“If we all could see the world through the eyes of a child, we would see the magic in everything.”

Children in their curiosity to explore the world, sometimes go crazy, clumsy, imperfect messy, naughty and at times misbehave but we the grown-ups, who have almost supressed the child within us view these imperfections asmistakes (again this narrow and stereotypical perspective of ours has been developed and strengthened with our age).

We, as over possessive and overprotective parents in constant efforts to push children towards perfection, keep stopping them and frequently say ‘No’. This robs them of their creativity,sense of exploration and hinders them from making meaningful connections with their environment.Instead, we should consider these marks of imperfection as the badges of courage and gifted uniqueness which, if given the motivation and right guidance may bring wonders.

Let the childrenbloom with happiness, allow them to spread the wings of imagination and cheer their enthusiasm.This is possible if we the adults keep our inner child alive within uswhich is not afflicted by stress, hatred, jealousy, anger,selfishness.

To bring out the best in your children, let them grow up as happy individuals and celebrate their uniqueness.

Following are someof the do’s and don'ts.

Do’s

• Give happy and motivating environment to your child.
• Strike a balance between your work and family life.
• Spend quality time with your child where you work according to the motives of the child(play-talk- fun).
• Listen not just to what the child speaks but peep into the depth of the words.
• Be the best friend of your child so that she shares almost each and everything with you at all ages.
• Inculcateself-discipline/self-control from early years itself.
• Ensure giving age-appropriate responsibilities from early age, this will help in bringing sense of responsibility, sense of accomplishment and self-worth.
• Be calm and patient while addressing the indifferences.Engage them in rational thinking.
• Help the child to plan the day after the school, bring all the central elements into work.Play time, study time, hobby, screen time, family time, fun time, mealtime.Be consistent in following the schedule.
• Go for‘Digital Detoxification’.
• Be a role model, show optimism, gratitude andkindness to set a good example for your children.
• Use affirmations and power talk while conversing with your child.
• Give them unconditional love.

Dont’s

• Avoid phubbing(an act of ignoring someone you are with and giving attention to your mobile). Children who are phubbed by parents are more prone to copy the habit of phubbing.
• Avoid overt discipline.
• Don’t yell, shout, or give corporal punishment as they will use the same to express their anger.
• Do not displace your anger or anxieties on your children as this might lead to stress, sadness and might make them anxious.
• Avoid discussing unpleasant things or personal differences in front of children (Wash your dirty linen in private).
• Avoid giving negative statements as this demotivates them and hampers  the development of a positive self-esteem.
• Avoid over protection or overindulgence or over pampering.

The magic, the wonder, the mystery, and the innocence of a child’s heart are the seeds of creativity that will heal the world. The child teaches us to always be curious, to be happy for no reasons and fight tirelessly for our goals.

Wishing you all a healthy and happy parenting!

Team Umang